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I Became a Life Coach!

I Became a Life Coach!

I've done it, I've actually finally done it. After years of dabbling and studying in the self-help world, I've finally gone out and got my Life Coaching Certification. It almost feels surreal to accomplish something that's been on the "to-do" list for a number of years. It's as if some sort of weight has been lifted off my shoulders, now when someone asks me if I'm certified I can respond with "YES!"

Anything's Possible When You Dream



Have you ever had what I like to refer to as a "movie moment?" It's that moment in the movie when everything comes together right near the end, or as most refer to as the climax of the film. All the characters just suffered what looked like a devastating loss and hit their lowest low. Maybe the girl didn't show up, or the family member didn't pull through, or the kiss went to another woman. It leaves you feeling so low and broken. You sympathies with the person on screen because the brain doesn't process whether it's real or not, it only processes what is happening. In that moment the person your watching just had their heart broken and the majority of us have experienced this exact same pain they are going through. But just then, against all odds, that same girl emerges from around the corner just as he was about to leave and your heart skips a beat. The family member's heart monitor sends a blip, then another, and another and you can feel tingling sensations surging all through your body and a smile emerges across your face. Or the guy pulls away from the girl and yells at her asking what the hell she thinks she's doing and that he's head over heels, to the moon and back, in love the lead actress, not her and your eyes begin to tear up.

You have these reactions because deep down we truly are dreamers, believers and want to see others win. You hope against all odds, You make wishes upon stars, You pray to something which is bigger than yourself. When you see other people experiencing the things you've been through it hits a memory point and triggers an emotion in you. You may fight it and squish it down but that doesn't stop it from being there. You may get angry and fight it but that's only because you attach this feeling to memories that create pain and you want to get away from it. You're a connected being, you're a compassionate being, you're a being who at the end of the day just wants to feel feelings of joy and live a happy life

This "movie moment" often brings up and stirs those feelings in us. What it's really doing is allowing you to dream again. It's giving you permission to live vicariously through these people on your screen and feel the magic you would feel if it were you. You start to have feelings of optimism, maybe you could have this in your life you think to yourself. Then the movies ends and you're left facing "reality." But what if you made a decision to keep those feelings of optimism alive? What if you said to yourself "that's it, I'm making this happen for me in my life!" 

So many of you don't realize that you have the power within yourself to change your life. I know this is a fact because I know you are the only person who get's to decide what your brain thinks and what you choose to pay attention to. You have the power to choose your thoughts, if you don't like one, change the channel! Make the choice to focus on your good thoughts and ignore the bad ones. You may argue that ignoring the bad ones is being ignorant. I do agree that you should acknowledge them but only to use them in a positive way, to see what you don't want so that you can navigate your brain towards what you do want. You have the power to experience these "movie moments" whenever you want. You have a million memories to pick and choose from so find ones that give you butterflies, give you hope, and hold onto them, focus on the happiness and let the rest fall away. Holding onto that negative thought is like picking up a burning ember with the desire of throwing at someone else, only you get burnt in the end. Bypass the ember and skip to the joy. Create your own "movie moments" and watch the miracles start to happen around you.
Anything is possible when you dream.

With Gratitude,
Calan

Lost vs. Discovering


I'm becoming very conscious of how deeply our words shape our world. I'm enjoying learning about words and what emotions and feelings I attach to certain words. One of the fun games I've been playing with myself is to work on finding better, more empowering words to use when I speak or think in order to open my world up to new possibilities instead of keeping it stuck in the same place. One of the big ones I've been playing with with the space of "feeling lost" versus "currently discovering."

I found that when I eliminated the idea and phrase of "feeling lost" from my vocabulary it took with it the energy I attached to it. I replaced it with "currently discovering" because this is a more empowering statement. With this new statement my brain could now go from a place of lack, feeling lost, to a place of possibility, currently discovering. The word discovering to me holds all of these possibilities and feelings of excitement. Think about it for a minute. Think to yourself what the word "discovering" means to you. Now if you're feeling like I was and you're currently "feeling lost" I want you to look inward and think about that thing you're feeling lost on, how does it feel? Now make the decision to change your words to "currently discovering" about the situation you we just feeling lost on and observe how you feel now. What shifts have happened? Did you notice a difference in the way you felt about the situation? Were you met with more optimism maybe that the situation will work itself out and that you just have to keep discovering more until it does? I hope this has helped you with Discovering Your Truth a little bit more today.

With Gratitude,
Calan